Humoring Her: How To Create Attraction Through Laughter

Published: 18th May 2009
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When you conjure up the image of an "attractive guy" in your mind, what kind of qualities do you think he possesses?

Tall? Muscular maybe? Striking features? What color hair?

Maybe you even picture a famous actor, like Brad Pitt or Josh Hartnett.

Whatever image comes to your mind, all you have to remember is that it is most likely WRONG.

See, it takes more than physical good looks to attract the kinds of women you desire to you. Sure, good looks help, but if you don't have anything beyond that, you're going to have a hard time.

Understand that the most attractive traits a man can possess has nothing to do with his physical appearance, and EVERYTHING to do with his personality!

The reason for this is because a person's personality is what influences the emotions of the people around him.

A guy who is outgoing, engaging, and fun will have people FLOCK to him, because he makes them feel good and have a good time.

And when you break everything down, having a good time with someone else is the fundamental building block of attraction!

That is why humor is so important. A guy who can make a girl laugh will be able to generate all kinds of fun, positive emotions inside her.

And I always like to say - if you can get a girl to have fun with you, you can get her to sleep with you!

So let's talk about what I mean when I say "Humor." Because strangely enough, lots of guys don't understand this.

What humor is NOT about: making jokes, or being funny. At least it's not totally about those things. So don't worry, if you have any comedic talent, you won't be left out here.

Humor is about making others feel good.

Have you heard the phrase "You are in good humor today?" It's a reflection of your attitude. Positive and happy. By being humorous, you create this feelings in others.

And when you think about it, isn't that all comedians do?

So when it comes to using humor with women, don't worry about trying to make her laugh. It'll come naturally. First of all - be sure to project positive emotions.

Smile at her. Relax. Lighten up. Give her a few compliments. Ask her some genuine questions about herself.

Tell her stories about who you are that are interesting.

And don't be afraid to joke around. Tease her. Make some fun of yourself. Play some games with her.

Play against expectations, and try not to go along with what she's normally expecting from you. This is where the "funny" part of humor comes into play.

For instance, if you're at dinner, and the waiter asks you what you'd like to drink, you can turn to your date and say "If I get a beer, you won't try and take advantage of me when I'm in my inebriated state, will you? 'Cause I don't put out on the first date!"

When you say that with a wink and a nod, girls will respond humorously to it, because you're doing a role reversal.

If she teases you, instead of trying to defend yourself, go along with it. If she says "Oh my God, you are such a dork!" you could say "Yeah, wait until you see my pocket protector and embarassingly large collection of Star Wars figurines. Then you'll get really turned on. Don't lie, I know you're totally into Dork Love."

That's so much cool and more of a fun response than saying something like "I'm not a dork, you're the dork." You play along, then you turn the tease into something positive.

Most importantly, you have to keep a playful attitude the entire time you do this. You can't take yourself (or your date) too seriously, otherwise you won't have a good time. Laugh at yourself, laugh at her, and relax about it.

So say if you tell a joke and it just doesn't come out right, you can say "Doh. That came off wrong! Was TRYING to make a joke." If you acknowledge that it was a bad joke, generally others will give you the leeway to recover from it. Comedians do this a lot - just watch Conan O'Brien, who does it most episodes.

Having a good sense of humor is absolutely essential when getting women to feel a strong sense of attraction for you. Allow yourself to have a good time, and the humor will come to you naturally.

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