Dating Secrets Girls Know That Guys Don't

Published: 18th May 2009
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Though they have many similarities, everyone knows that there are obvious differences between men and women. But physical differences aside, the most important (and glaring) difference is how women and men perceive the world around them.

Men are much more logical when it comes to their world-view. They tend to see things in black and white - a very pragmatic outlook. Logic plays a big part in how many men make their decisions, even if they consider themselves "dreamers" or the "creative types."

Women, by contrast, are more emotional than men are. They will allow their decision making process to be ruled by their emotions. This doesn't mean that girls can't be logical, or pragmatic, but it does mean that women are much more inclined to "go with their gut" when their emotions are signaling to them to do something.

Indeed - this is how nature intended things to be. If women were ruled by logic, they would have a hard time caring for their children, since women have to be empathetic to their baby's needs.

By the same token, nature intended men to be logical, since this is the best way for men to protect and provide for their families.

Unfortuneately, though these differences serve a purpose, they also make it more difficult for the two sexes to really understand each other.

Because men are logical, they just assume women think the same way they do! After all, everyone always thinks others - no matter how different they may be - perceives the world in the same way they do.

But this just isn't the case. Because men are logical in nature, they will try and force that logic onto the women they like - usually with poor results.

Take for instance, the notion of the "Pity Kiss."

This is one of those things that girls talk about with each other, and guys have no idea exists. And it all stems from the differences between the logic and the emotional.

For example, let's imagine a guy and a girl are out together, and the poor guy completely mis-understands the situation. Its obvious to everyone but him that the girl is not attracted to him, yet he is oblivious to this notion and tries to kiss her.

Naturally, the girl will try and politely keep from having to go through with the kiss. When this happens, the guy's logic center will kick in, and he will try to convince the girl to kiss him!

You'll hear lines like:

"Wow, I thought you liked me. I thought you were different from all the other girls, but I guess I was wrong about you."

"Why don't you want to kiss me? Are you just using me? We're such a good fit!"

"This never happens to me. Why did you go out with me if you don't like me?"

Obviously, there's a million of these types of arguments, and usually the guys will keep at it until the girl caves in and kisses him.

But this is actually the WORST thing that could happen!

The guy may think he's won because he got the kiss, but in reality, he's lost, because the woman gave him a "Pity Kiss" just to shut him up and get away from him without coming off as mean. Now, the woman feels like she was guilted into kissing him, and she'll harbor resentment over it.

This is the type of stuff women will talk about at length to their friends, and NEVER bring up to a guy they like.

But it's important for men to know about the things women talk about - because the best way to attract a woman is to UNDERSTAND how they operate.

And they operate on EMOTION.

In order to really connect with a woman, a man has got to learn to appeal to her emotions and not her logic.

You have to understand that if a woman doesn't want to kiss you - even if you are a great guy and would logically make a great match - it's because you haven't made her experience the emotions she needs to feel to actually WANT to kiss you.

The number one reason why so many guys get rejected by girls is this reliance on logic and the ignoring of emotion!

And, of course, because of this, women will complain to each other "Why don't they understand how to make us happy? What's wrong with men?"

The simple fact is this: emotions will always rule when it comes to love. This is the secret girls know that guys don't. And the guy that understands this secret, is the guy who will inevitably get the girl.

Joseph Matthews has been teaching guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely recognized as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, check out his free newsletter.

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